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April 15, 2008

Sex, and the Sexes

Michael Blowhard writes:

Dear Blowhards --

* The Rawness offers the ladies a lot of sensible tips. Jo responds with a sweet list of attributes the Perfect Guy might have.

* Girls like book clubs.

* Seems like an excellent way to spend a Continuing-Education kind of Saturday afternoon ...

* Hardcore Marilyn.

* MSNBC's Tony Sclafani wonders why junior celebs are pushing their virginity vows on the rest of us.

* Tony Perrotet writes an introduction to the history of opera castrati, who were the rock stars of their era and who often led remarkable love lives. An informative and enjoyable film about the era is "Farinelli." It's full of beauty, costumes, sex, and Handel arias.

* Can porn be feminist? Check out the number of comments on that one.

* MBlowhard Rewind: I offered the hunch that -- for a young man in today's hyper-pumpy world -- the final taboo may be simply feeling exhausted, or not being in the mood.



posted by Michael at April 15, 2008


I can't believe that jerk is just going to lock up that Marilyn hardcore tape. Now there's a guy who has no sympathy for the common good.

Posted by: Todd Fletcher on April 16, 2008 12:10 PM

I believe the Marilyn Monroe thing is a hoax:

Posted by: yt on April 16, 2008 8:15 PM

Apparently the perfect guy has to put up with Jo's mishegass. A ton of it. That's what makes him perfect. And in return? What's in it for him? What? Her perfect ass. And that's enough?

Posted by: ricpic on April 16, 2008 8:27 PM

ricpic, you do have a way of grabbing hold of the wrong end of the stick. If this woman had written a piece praising her own wonderful qualities as a girlfriend, which is what she would have to do in order to provide the information you seek, I expect you would be the first person to go on a little tangent about female narcissism. She wrote this to praise her boyfriend: whatever her own qualities or lack of them, she chose to concentrate on his good points.

Posted by: alias clio on April 16, 2008 10:08 PM

He can calm me down.
He will argue with me...
He teaches me things when I ask questions.
He is very strong...but completely vulnerable around me.

Jo is clearly high maintenance.

Question: why should Mr. Perfect stick with Jo, when around every corner there are, if not low maintenance, at least medium maintenance gals?
Answer: Mr. Perfect won't stay with Jo.

In other words, Jo is courting disaster by insisting on his perfection finding a match in her neediness. But hey, who am I to stand in the female's avid pursuit of misery? Go for it, Jo!

Posted by: ricpic on April 16, 2008 11:16 PM

Oops...stand in the way of...

Posted by: ricpic on April 16, 2008 11:22 PM

He will argue with me (and more often than not be right) and have the balls to tell me when I'm being wrong, dense, stubborn, etc.

He teaches me things when I ask questions. He's patient enough to pause Hardball or John Adams and explain something when I don't know it.

He really really loves my ass.

You know, I find these three items to be fairly new on the romantic landscape. Here is a girl who is basically asking/wanting her guy to be superior in certain ways.

And don't read too much into that word, "superior" know what I mean.

I really respect that. I find that girls nowadays are being a lot more honest about what they want. Sure, a lot of them don't really know what they want, but for the ones that do, they are speaking up.

I think that not too long ago if some girl had said that she wants her man to right, and put her in her place (which is what she is saying), she would have been roundly destroyed by the feminists. Now, people are a little freer to say things like that.

Posted by: Ian Lewis on April 17, 2008 10:54 AM

The Tony Sclafani rant was amusing. While he raises some good points about hypocrisy, and about virginity being used as a marketing tool, nevertheless, he seems to take it personally that some celebs loudly proclaim their virginity, as if they were "shoving it down" his throat.

What's really eating him? Methinks it's simply irritation at those of more conservative bent than MSNBC/Newsweek columnists such as himself, actually borrowing a page from the left (which has used the culture of tell-all to advance its agenda) and fighting fire with fire. How dare those virgins stand up and be counted! How dare they open their mouths and proclaim their alternate lifestyle choice, as being equally legitimate as that of the progressives'! The nerve of those people!

Posted by: Will S. on April 19, 2008 1:34 AM


The real issue here is that Jo was nice enough to write this post basically talking about how wonderful she thinks I am. In a vacuum, anyone could read that and come to some of the conclusions that you all have. But she didn't mention the issues and areas that I have where she has helped and continues to help me.
There is no perfect match. There is only the person that you love and your experience growing older and (hopefully) wiser together.
We all 'put up with' each other sometimes. It doesn't mean we don't love, nor does it mean we're going anywhere. This is the real world: We're going to have bad days, months, maybe years. We're going to have differences of personality or thought. It doesn't indicate a deeply flawed relationship necessarily. It's just life.
All there is is love. I don't know how else to say it.

Posted by: "Perfect Guy" on April 21, 2008 12:31 PM

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