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February 01, 2008

Cruising

Michael Blowhard writes:

Dear Blowhards --

We all know that many gay men go out "cruising." But what's involved? What are the rules of the game? What are the dance steps, so to speak? The CBC's Ben Aylsworth offers an introduction. (Seems to me SFW, but make your own call.)

One comment on the page struck me as especially interesting:

I'm gay. And I often make it a point to encourage people in general to fully experience their sexual desires. That these guys are having sex is not the problem. It's where they're doing it. It is a thoughtless imposition on the rest of us to assume control over a public space, by driving the rest of us out. And in the case of [Vancouver's] Stanley Park, it does damage that no other park user would think of doing or be allowed to get away with.

Best,

Michael

posted by Michael at February 1, 2008




Comments

Eh, that shit always squicks me out. I mean in this day and age, is it really necessary to even do that sort of thing anymore?
Here's a true if somewhat disgusting story about a personal experience first-hand with an overly aggressive cruiser.

On the campus where I work there are several bathrooms that serve as cruising pick-up spots. I really didn't pay any mind to that sort of thing. Then one day while waiting during a late Friday afternoon to meet with a professor in a mostly empty building, the college cafeteria bacon cheeseburger I had unwisely consumed for lunch decided to strike me with severe intestinal pains. I ran to the nearest restroom on the floor and entered the first clean stall that was available. It was only after I had settled in did I notice that there was a person using the stall across from me. As I sweated through the cramps I noticed that the other person's hands were grabbing the lower edge of his door. I had no clue as to what the hell he was doing, but thinking he might be out to grab my laptop bag and sprint off with it, I moved it towards the back end of my stall. Then his hand went up and lowered again, this time with a small mirror angled so that he could see me inside my stall. At that moment fear and shock hit me so fast that the bacon cheeseburger exited in one explosive swoop. With that, his hand shot back up, and I quickly cleaned up and exited the bathroom.

In retrospect, I should have said something witty in response.

Posted by: Spike Gomes on February 1, 2008 7:45 PM



Oh, geez, Spike. What better response is there than an explosive swoop? If that didn't the point across as to why you were in there in the first place, nothing would have.

Posted by: Cody on February 1, 2008 11:39 PM



Boy, am I glad that lesbians don't usually try to pick up women in bathrooms.

Posted by: alias clio on February 2, 2008 12:11 AM



The tendency of some gayguyz to do their cruising in public men's rooms is weird, isn't it? For one thing, talk about unsexy places ....

Posted by: Michael Blowhard on February 2, 2008 10:23 AM



Apparently, gayguyz often think that public men's rooms are very sexy.

A couple of my gayguy friends talk incessantly about poop. Since gay sex is so overwhelming anal sex, poop must have an entirely different fragrance in this culture.

In my visits to the gay demimonde, I've noticed that stinking, sweaty, shitty, pissy cauldrons of hell really appeal to a lot of gay men. How to account for these tastes? I don't think you can. Some women positively love giving a blow job. You can't get them to let go of that thing. Others wretch at the thought.

Who can explain these mysteries of life?

Posted by: Shouting Thomas on February 2, 2008 10:48 AM



The reason they can't behave like the rest of us, is that they aren't like the rest of us. The reason they wallow in the gutter (so to speak), is because they are of the gutter. The more transgressive, the better, in their view.

The only really surprising thing, is that others, in our time, have come to see their choice as a perfectly legitimate one, instead of the sick perversion that countless generations, across all manners of cultures and religions, have recognized as abnormal and morally abhorrent. And further, that such "enlightened", "tolerant", "progressive" types now see the predominant worldview on the matter, down through history, as deviating from the norm.

Posted by: anon on February 4, 2008 7:56 PM






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